LONG DISTANCE Relationship(t)?

"I know what you're feeling now. It's my fault anyway."

Technically and emotionally, she was in shock, seeing that words that he uttered via BBM ( BlackBerry Messenger ). 

"Why did that dumbass bring that matters again?", she grunted, with a deep sigh.

She let the tears dripping down on my face. The tough look she's built up till that time, been broken down. Still putting on the weeps, she began to flashback. From the time they first met.

"I'm Fatimah. You're?" 

"Al-Imron ( real name should be taken into confidential! Haha ). Nice to meet you"

"Nice to meet you too"

From then on, they started talking, via BBM or skype. Fatimah started asking Al-Imron about this one duck guy, who tried to flirt, said things that are common if you said them to person whom you considered as a friend. 

This guy, was really an annoying one. You girls should be careful to this kind of guy. Ha! He did all the things that have been mentioned above, yet he had a girlfriend, even though she lived 3.421 km away with 1 hour time difference.

At first Fatimah was quite happy, being a freshman in a quite prestigious university, having a caring senior to depend on, to care for you. That senior, we can call him 'Syaifullah' for instance. Firstly, Fatimah was quite attracted because he was smart. Fatimah did love smart people anyway, okay cut it out, move to the main frame. He helped her with ‘Introduction to Diplomacy’ class. She was amazed that he was quite brainy to be able to answer every single problems and questions she dealt with. Fatimah began to put some interest in Syaifullah. However, at that time, she didnt even know that he was pursuing a relationship, a long-distance one.

One rainy night, her university sophomores and seniors asked her out for a late dinner, she said yes and she started talking about campus life, a lecturer that needed to be given a box of Igor pastries and date flavoured Nu Green Tea ( “ I want a date flavoured ones, cos it’s halal, the other flavours are haram” one of her friends imitated the way she said that and she was like giving an ‘Oh My God. That's too mainstream!’ reaction, then they all bursted out into laughter. ) every time to please her, and some guys and girls in our campus. Quite normal to be taken for a conversation topic. LOL

After some laughters and pain in the stomach, here come the words that let her feel puzzled up!

"If you need someone to look up to, it’s best if you look up to Syaifullah. He has a girlfriend that lived so far away and yet he’s still faithful and maintaining the relationship”

Ewh and i kept this line spinning in my head, " He's got a girlfriend? So that means he's in an LDR, but they said that he's faithful. But then, why does he call me at night, flirt with me with that kind of manner? "

Few hours later, with that kind of reasoning still being worked on my mind, Al-Imron accidentally saw her in Skype and called her. She answered, with video. 

Well, just skip the so-called unimportant things like the pointless babbles, worthless conversations, and forced stupid jokes. We could just jump into the conclusion, couldn't we? ;) At the end after discussing the matter about that jerky Syaifullah, both Fatimah and Al-Imron both agreed on 3 things.

1. Syaifullah is a total jerk

2. Syaifullah should really be thankful to have such a fine lady as her such as his girlfriend. I mean, do you have mirror in your house bro?

3. Syaifullah, persona non grata 'ed for a while ( sorry for the grammar nazi, or what should i say for difusing latin and english word into an unknown one? )

Seconds passed, minutes left, hours rushed, and days went by, Fatimah tried to be just a good kid around Syaifullah. Answering his chats indifferently, said hi without any emotions, smiled at him just for the sake of being polite and respecting the senior. She didn't even know why, all of her feelings, curiosity were gone with this summer breeze ( well, there's no summer in Indonesia. I just made this up so it could look a bit classy, eh? ). Guess that time she could still think light-headedly with clear mind thus she was still able not to lose her pride and fell into his den.

Eastern Surabaya, 37 degree Celcius ( 98.6 F ), wind: 5 km/h, humidity : 89%,  7°16′S 112°43′E / 7.267°LS 112.717°BT, there was a girl with her black hijab covering a dark brown *uhm* jumpsuit  loitering aimlessly seeing the vicinity around, waiting for her papa to pick her up from 5 hours of absorbing diplomacy and international relation thingy, yes and that was Fatimah; pondering about what actually happened for the past few months.

Some thoughts were still hanging up in Fatimah's mind, unanswered.

1. Girls fall in love with what they hear. That's why is it easy for a guy who's born a casanova to court any girl he wants to court? Because, yes, as girls, we do love compliments, we feel honored when someones say good things about us, we don't mind a guy's pouring his attention on us. Even though we say we hate guys who flirt, but we don't mind being flirted by a guy we like. We may seem uninterested in you or changing the topics when you guys flirt with us, however you don't know how stupidly we're blushing, how the dumb looks in our face look like when we read your words on our phone screen or hear your flirtation over the telephone. When we're in a relationship, especially a long distance one, we girls are generally okay however we tend to be insecure. I wanna elaborate about this matter a bit later maybe in part 2 ;)

2. Guys fall in love with what they see. Everyone knows that guys tend to look at the physical features of a girl when there's a question on ' How do guys see in girls '. Of course the first thing is about the physical features, noone would deny it; whether the girl is pretty or not so; whether the girl is slim or plump; whether the has a certain distinguished physical features or not'. We do believe every guys say yes to the statement that i've written above. Then, they begin to take a quite liking on a girl's personality and so on. That's why, when a couple is pursuing an LDR, usually the guy would prone to cheat more than girls. As I've stated above that guys fall in love with what they see, this also means that guys need someone to be right next to him PHYSICALLY. Thus, based on this logic, pursuing an LDR for a guy is quite a troublesome thing because his spouse is nowhere near him. There's no one near to support him when he's down, no one near to share his thoughts to, no one near to love him. So, there's no surprise if a guy who's pursuing an LDR would be hooked by girls around him. Even though the girl is not as pretty, is not as smart, is not as loving as his girlfriend, he would choose this girl, just because she's near. Well, damn the distance?

3. When a couple is apart, a girl demands loyalty from the guy and a guy demands a trust from his girl. Uhm, can't spoil this yet cos i would have nothing to write about in the part 2 ;)

4. Some people were meant to fall in love with another, but aren't meant to be together. Guess distance is one of these barriers, huh? What if two people are in love with each other but they are afraid to take the challenge, they see the chance but they don't take it, actually they can make a decision but they're too afraid. At the end, they would be mourning about the relationships they were too afraid to have.

5. LDR can work, can't it?

Hope that you don't have an urge to close the window while reading this :'') Anyway, thank you for visiting!
i'll update the part II soon! 

END OF PART I ( AUTHOR'S WILLINGNESS TO WRITE :  LVL -999 )